Happy New Year to all you beautiful people! I cannot believe that it is 2017 already. It’s been a while since you’ve heard from me so I wanted to give you an update on the ending of 2016 and what I’ve been up to. With all its ups and downs, 2016 ended on a high note with a trip to Barcelona, Spain where I got to ring in the New Year with fireworks on the beach among old and new friends. In this post I want to share some of my reflections on this past year and some key takeaways.
Sometimes we have to let go
Whether it’s a relationship or a business idea, this one is never easy. Last year I had to make a difficult decision to let go of a relationship and the person I loved very much. As much as I loved him I had to realize that long-term we were not compatible. It’s so easy to sometimes get lost in the now and not think about the future. But we must always stay true to ourselves and our values because love is not enough. Losing a person is hard and very painful but losing ourselves is much worse in the long run.
I also had to let go of a business idea I was in love with. This one was also hard because it was my first stab at entrepreneurship. Just as the person loving a business is not enough, it has to be feasible and viable in the long run. I had to be honest with myself and recognize that the ideas was not very feasible and let it go. The best part about both of these is that I’ve learned so much in the process. We only lose when we don’t learn anything.
When we make emotional decisions we pay the price
It took me almost a year to find my current job after I left my last one because I hated it so much. There is nothing wrong with making changes but doing so without having a plan is not the best idea. I learned this the hard way. I know that I have an addictive personality so it’s hard for me to sometimes stay with an uncomfortable feeling. It’s easier just to get out. This can backfire without a plan. Creating a plan can take some time, but having one can save more than just money, it can save you piece of mind. Take this from this not at all perfect MoneyGirl. As many strides as I have made towards financial security and peace, sometimes I find myself going through certain lessons more than once. Hey, it’s all part of the journey.
Relationships matter above everything else
Over and over again I recognize the power of relationships. At the end of the day it’s not your fancy car or watch or bank account that will help you with your goals, problems, sadness, career aspirations etc it will be your relationships with people. And I’m not talking about 2,000 Facebook friends or 10,000 followers on Instagram. I’m talking about true, meaningful, deep relationships with REAL people. I try to live by the principle: people first, money second, then things. Last year was very hard emotionally, and it were my friends who have helped me get through it.
Patience is a necessary evil
This one is never easy for me and kind of goes back to takeaway number two. Patience is extremely important for all areas of our lives. Whether it’s financial goals, relationships, career aspirations, all of those things take time. I’ll be the first to admit, I struggle with this one. Maybe because I was never a patient kid to begin with, I was fast and furious lol or because my parents weren’t really there to help me learn the importance of it and help develop the necessary mental muscle. All of that is irrelevant to my 29-year old self, because at the end of the day we have to teach ourselves what our parents didn’t teach us or life will teach us.
We don’t have to live our lives according to tradition or other people
I went to Barcelona for Christmas and New Year’s celebration to spend the holidays with friends and to make new friends. This is not a typical way to spend the holidays, but I know that I’m not a typical person. For a while I tried so hard to change my family dynamics and to make it work. Holidays were stressful and full of emotional roller-coasters. And then I realized that instead of fighting I can let go and do my thing. Life is too short to hate the holidays. So I did just that and went to Spain. I am working on a travel guide from my trip so stay tuned.
I hope this new year brings new beginnings and new experiences to all of us! I am certainly looking forward to a great year!